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So, You’ve Had A Dream About A Future Spouse . . .

So, You’ve Had A Dream About A Future Spouse . . .

I’ve heard from some of you that you’ve had a similar experience to mine—you’ve had a dream about a future spouse.

And some of you want to know if it’s actually possible for God to reveal a husband in a dream.

I’m not a pastor, or counselor or therapist. I’m a Christian who asked for a dream, and—by God’s mercy—He gave one to me. Your experience is going to be different, and your dream may not reveal what you think it does.

Personally, I believe that God can and does use dreams to reveal Himself and His plans to us. Throughout Scripture, God uses dreams and dream interpreters to speak with His people. The use of dreams as one of God’s communication tools is scriptural.

As I mentioned above, I’m not a pastor or counselor or relationship expert, but there are a few things that I became aware of and grew to understand.

  • Be in prayer with God about your dream every day. If you can, spend 15 to 30 minutes praying to God about everything. I use a daily devotion called “Face to Face: Praying the Scriptures for Intimate Worship” by Ken Boa.
  • Be willing to be wrong about your dream. Did the dream fill you with hope? Does the dream bring you closer to God? Did the dream feel like a promise that God has everything under control? Then anchor yourself to that and not the specifics of the dream. A lady once told me that the man in my dream was most likely God Himself telling me that He’s providing my every need. So, if that’s the truth of your dream, then trust that and stand firm on that. Let God work out the details.
  • Ask God what the dream means. Ask Him to reveal the purpose of the dream. Perhaps you know someone in your church who is familiar with biblical interpretation of dreams—not the “new age” dream interpretation. But someone with the gift of prophecy. If you know someone, consider talking to them about the dream, asking them to pray over the dream as well.
  • Pray for your future husband. Ask that God is developing him—whoever he is—to be a man after God’s own heart.
  • Petition God to break the bonds with your ex or exes. Exes have a way of keeping ties to us emotionally and psychologically. Even when someone is gone for good, there are still emotional ties and emotional buttons that can be triggered. Pray that God would break those bonds. A book that changed the way I view prayer is called “Walking With God” by John Eldredge. In the book, Eldredge wrote out a prayer he used to break the bonds between him and a bad work situation. I rewrote that prayer and applied it to my ex. And God has “deactivated” those links to my ex.
  • Live your life. Follow God. Date people. Have fun. Travel. Volunteer. Do whatever it is that makes you happy and brings you life and joy. The right man will come alongside a woman who is doing her thing. And this is to also say, don’t sit around at home waiting for your dream to be fulfilled. Get out and live, resting on the confidence of God’s promises—that He provides for you and has promised to take care of you and give you your heart’s desires.

I pray that God richly blesses you as you seek Him about the dreams He plants in your heart.

Read our story from the beginning:
how we met
a dream about my husband
between the dream and dating
meeting my husband again
we tried to date but didn’t
a year of silence
how we became friends again
we started dating . . . for real this time
we got married!

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